Hi there, happy 2021 y’all! 2020 has been a tough ride for many of us, for me as well! All the securities and goals I had for the year were very quickly thrown out the window.
With all my events cancelled and for the first time in years not being able to do my best work by speaking to live audiences all over the world I’ve been questioning one main thing.
It’s also a question I’ve been getting a lot and that is: how do we, in the midst of unpredictable circumstances and world events, come to ourselves and find our own truth? How do we start to really influence our life and take back control over our mind?
In this video I share with you 5 ways how you can really get in to this. But first of all, we will start the year of with a nice breathing session. Follow along!
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hello friends happy new year
in this video i want to share with you
five steps
to becoming more free your thinking to
becoming less worried about the external
circumstances
and to start building the life and start
building the world and the future
that you really want to live in because
the main thing
i’ve been questioning and the main
question i’ve been getting in the last
year is
how do we in the midst of unpredictable
circumstances world events political
situations
untrustworthy opinions from all kinds of
different sources
how do we come to ourself how do we find
our own truth
and how do we start to really influence
our life and take back control over our
mind
over our ways of being over our behavior
and in this video i want to share some
of that with you and it’s going to start
with
the breath of course and
what i’d like to share with you is this
little breathing pattern that i like to
use to disrupt my mental patterns
and to come back to that self-awareness
and that place where i can really
decide what i do with my mind and it’s a
breathing pattern that starts with
three nasal inhales and on the fourth
count we have a mouth inhale
and then we have an eight count exhale
it’s very simple we’re going to count on
the drum here and it’s going to be
like i said three counts nasal in fourth
count mouth in
eight counts mouth out it looks like
this
all right so breathe in
in
[Music]
and again in
and out
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and in
and out
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and in
and out
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go back to your normal breathing so
that’s just not even a minute of breath
work right
and it really helps you to disrupt your
state so the first
step into becoming more free in your
mind and becoming more capable
of directing your attention in these
trying times
is to disconnect from whatever is
external because all of these opinions
and media outings and articles and
you know and these events they are all
external and
generally we suffer when the external
circumstances overpower
our our ability but also our
perception of what we can actually do in
relation to these things
so as soon as we are stuck in a mental
thought pattern
when we’re worrying when we’re anxious
or just thinking about something
non-stop
it is pretty clear that we are focused
on external things and we’re very much
in our head
and we’re not very grounded and
connected to
our body and to our heart and to what is
most important
to us and this is really what causes the
mental chaos now
breathing is the ultimate way to disrupt
a mental pattern especially if you’re
stuck in a mental pattern
and this has to do with the fact that
you know your brain
creates breathing rhythms and this
mostly happens in the brainstem but
actually your entire brain collaborates
to create
the breathing rhythms that sustain our
life and we as humans of course have the
superpower of being able to
consciously control our breathing
pattern which means
that if we disrupt so change our
breathing pattern we can disrupt and
change
the way we think um and the the the
quality of our thoughts but especially
just disrupting whatever we’re in
whatever we’re thinking in that moment
and this breathing pattern um three
second nasal inhale and the fourth is a
mouth inhale which creates kind of like
a double inhale like a sire for leaf
right so that’s a great way to kind of
up charge your breath
snap out of it and then that length and
exhale for eight counts
is a stimulate your vagus nerve so this
is why it’s a parasympathetic dominant
breathing pattern
it stimulates your vagus nerve which
very simply means that
it calms you down it allows you to land
in the parasympathetic nervous system
right to calm down your heart rate
and that especially increases your
self-awareness as soon as you go
more into that calm parasympathetic
state your self-awareness
increases and that brings us to the
ability to do step two
and step two of this process is to
observe so once you become self-aware
you can actually observe and ask
yourself hey wait what is actually going
on inside of me
what are these thoughts you know why
have i been thinking about this
one particular political opinion of this
guy i met at
you know uh you know i’ve seen online
because we don’t meet people at parties
as well anymore you know
um or you know um
how am i constantly taking my attention
away from what i find important
and directing it towards this article
and that opinion and this social media
post and that politician
and um if we can observe these things
then so we become aware and then we
observe these things
and we can take a little bit of distance
from it then we can really start to
disentangle
which of these things actually have to
do directly with
our in the moment experience so that’s
step three right so step one is
disruptive pattern with breath
step two is observe the thoughts and the
feelings and the ideas and everything
that’s going in your mind
with a little bit of distance and then
from that is step three is you can start
to dissect it
right so once you can observe it and
look at this whole landscape of thought
and feeling and confusion you’ll be like
okay let’s
let’s cut into this let’s what’s what
and i would suggest dividing it into two
categories
within my zone of control or influence
or outside of my zone of control and
influence
because once you know which of the
things you can actually control and
influence and which of the things you
can’t
then it becomes much easier to determine
where to take your action
because to be fair we don’t know what’s
going to happen
and nobody knows and there’s a lot of
people who are convinced that they know
what’s going to happen and that they
know how to solve the problem
whether they’re at the all the way at
the completely paranoid end of the
spectrum
or all the way at the completely like
strict uh
end of the spectrum where you know it
doesn’t matter where
people are on the spectrum of of
believings what matters is that you get
to believe
what you need to believe and what serves
you and what is really true for you
and that means that you need to have
a zone of influence that you can see
that you can understand that you can
start to act on
because all of these opinions all of
these thoughts all of these ideas
all of these messages they are externals
and we do
not know and no matter how loud people
scream that they know exactly what’s
going on
and they know exactly what’s going to
happen the only thing that really is
important to ask yourself what is true
for me
and the only way to do that for me at
least is to ask
is it within my zone of influence can i
do something about it
and all of the other things that you
cannot do anything about and you have no
way of knowing what’s going to happen we
can’t predict them
we have to learn to let go the urge of
wanting to control them and it’s not
about letting them go and not being
updated or not caring about them anymore
but at least not letting them control
your life
because then you can actually start to
focus your actions and your thoughts and
your feelings within your zone of
influence which you can actually
do and that’s the fourth step is
determine a micro action within your
zone of influence
and it can be as simple as just to
breathe
it can be as simple as just four or five
times a day taking a minute or two to do
a breathing pattern like this
and just come to your breath and from
coming to your breath becoming more
aware
being able to observe becoming more able
to dissect
what is in my zone of influence and what
is not and from there
make more compassionate choices that are
more within
you know your zone of influence that you
can
actually act upon now other actions that
you can take
there’s so many one thing that i for
example have found is i’ve
i’ve felt very concerned about the
environment recently i was walking the
streets and i was noticing
there was so much trash on the on on the
floors
and all through the city and even in
nature when i go out and i realized that
a lot of people have started using
discardable things more because now
all of the restaurants are doing takeout
and people they you know they go for a
walk and they
take out coffee or they take out food
and they you know they wear disposable
masks and
that was it was just littered everywhere
and i feel like that
you know pollution especially plastic
pollution is a major issue that we’re
dealing with right now
and sure it’s far too big of a problem
for me that the you know there’s a
plastic soup that is destroying our
habitat
it’s outside of my zone of uh influence
but what i can actually do is i can take
an action within my zone of influence
and i decided to go plastic free
and instead of worrying about all the
political situations and all the stuff
out there in the world i’m going to be
like no
i make an impact i’m going to not buy
anything wrapped in plastic
and i’m going to start picking up trash
whenever i see it and every now and then
i go out and i pick trash up from the
street
it’s a very simple example but it gave
me such a tremendous sense of feeling
and a sense of self-regulation where i
was able to make an impact and to really
make a
a micro contribution to the macro
world the macro future that i want to
create because i want to create a future
where people are happy
and healthy and we live in a wonderful
clean on a wonderful clean planet
where we have clean air to breathe and
we you know we don’t get
um in into all of these health issues
that we’re seeing right now
and simply picking up trash to me was a
huge deal for that another thing you can
do if you’re healthy if you’re capable
why not help somebody else be healthy
and be capable right so somebody who is
more vulnerable
to any kind of illness or virus
why don’t you offer to go and help them
or to go for a walk with them
to take them on a run right there’s so
much that we can actually do but as soon
as you know
this is my zone of influence this is
what i can do then is step five
five you can share the love you can be
of service you can start to take that
wonderful feeling of freedom of i am
contributing i am doing something that
is worthwhile
i am doing something that is creating so
i’m doing a micro
micro movement that if i do it enough
times it will create this macro change
i can share that i can give that to
other people and
especially now that we’re isolated and
quarantined and locked down and people
aren’t mingling and meeting it’s less
obvious that we can actually interact
with people and we can give them
something and it’s less obvious that
the greatest gift that we have um
and that we can give to ourself is to
share the greatest gifts that we have
for ourselves right
so the greatest gift you could ever
receive is to share the greatest gift
that you’ve ever received
and the greatest gift that you’ve ever
received as far as i’m concerned as
humans
is the ability to be self-aware right so
we can anchor our self-awareness and the
breath by disrupting our breathing
pattern
then we can observe the mental chaos
that is going on then we can dissect the
mental chaos into the categories
i can influence it or i can’t influence
it then we can decide a micro change a
micro action
that we can take within our zone of
influence and as soon as we’re doing it
we can share it with people around us
the people we love but also
complete strangers and it is really that
level at which i am
intending to move forward in the new
year
and i’ve realized that one thing you
know my my job is teaching
i’m always going to teach and no matter
whether i’m in front of an audience or
whether i’m in front of a camera
and i’m still in front of an audience of
course i mean a live audience or a
camera
i’m just going to teach and this is
something that i’m going to be spending
most of my time on
uh in this year sitting in front of the
camera sharing my best thoughts
and trying to give as much of what i
think i know what i think might help
with the world if you would like to be
involved with that and be updated
on these videos that i’m going to do a
few times a week and they’re all going
to be about
positive change and about you know
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breath work about coaching skills then
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we can make a better place together
better future um
i hope to see you in person very soon
sending you much love peace out